How To Help Louisiana Flooding Victims

Good Morning Everyone,

I woke up this morning, checked the news, looked at the new predictions for flooding in Ascension Parish, and tried to wrap my mind around the worst flooding that I have ever personally seen. As I sit here writing this post, I am acutely aware that I am one of the lucky ones. As of the writing of this post, my neighborhood has not flooded. I still have a home, my pet is safe, my power is on, and I have cell phone service. These are things that I take for granted most days, but today, they are a luxury in many areas of Baton Rouge, Livingston Parish, and so many more parishes in the state of Louisiana.

Like everyone else, I pulled everything up as far off the floor as I could get it, packed a bag in the case of evacuation, and made sure to reach out to loved ones outside of the area to tell them where to look for updates in case the power or phone lines go down. As I was having this conversation, it occurred to me that I should put these many years of Red Cross training to good use and give a run through of some of the things that we are taught with respect to how to prepare for, sustain, and manage a disaster of this scale. I hope this helps anyone who is looking for this kind of information, and as many that will read this post, will  not do so until their lives return to normal, I hope that it may serve as a guide for how to stay prepared for future disasters. As we are in the middle of the actual disaster, I am listing the information out of order, but by priority as; High Priority Information, How You Can Help During A Disaster, then How To Help Before A Disaster (For Next Time) and finally, How To Help After A Disaster.

******Recent Request For The Addition Of This High Priority Information:

  1. Please visit FEMA Disaster Assistance to download the application for disaster assistance. Also, please be advised that FEMA has an app, which you may download directly to your phone and reach out to them there. I have been advised by FEMA that flood victims are experiencing long delays being able to access their website. They advised to be patient and continue trying.
  2. Please visit this FEMA Filing A Claim link to learn more about how to file a claim. This page walks you through everything.
  3. Since the writing of the blog post that you are reading, I interviewed a Baton Rouge gentlemen who works closely with FEMA. With the help of his interview, I was able to put together a short and clear plan for How To Apply For FEMA Disaster Assistance.
  4. I have created the following playlists on my YouTube channel titled ‘How To File A Flood Insurance Claim‘, What To Do With A Car With Flood Damage, and How To Handle Flood Water Damage and Clean Up . I have included all videos which I think are helpful to people who need this information. These are not my videos, but the videos of other content creators on YouTube. I have no affiliation to any of the companies listed in the videos. They are being provided solely as another source of information for local residents in need.

My apologies for inserting the information above there. It may seem out of place, but I was receiving a lot of request for the information. Ok, back to the task at hand.

DURING THE CURRENT 2016 BATON ROUGE FLOOD: WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP? 

This article is not about what to do during a flood, so much as it is about how to help before, during, and after a flood. In the last section, we talked about how you can help before the disaster, so now let’s talk about what you can do during the disaster.

  1. Assuming that you are still in your home, try to stay off of the phone as much as possible. Phone lines are overwhelmed, so try to keep all conversations that do not need to be had to a minimum. Text if you have to, but keep the phone lines open for affected victims and emergency responders.
  2. This is an excellent opportunity to start going through your house, room by room, and identifying items that you may no longer need. All flood victims will have the same basic needs; food, shelter, and clothing. Go through your closets, your kids closets, your pantry, etc and pull out items which you are willing to donate. This can also include things like blankets, batteries, cleaning supplies, toiletries, and more. Bag these items up in like groups. For example, put all of the toiletries in one bag, clothes in another, etc. This way you can distribute it to the shelters that have a need for that specific kind of item. This will ease their work on the receiving end at the shelters, as they will not have to sort through your donation bag. Also, use bags not boxes. Bags are easy to break open, reuse, and dispose of. Boxes are bulky and can be hard to store or break down when there are a large amount of incoming donations.
  3. During a disaster, one of the most insidious problems is distribution of information. The responders are so busy trying to keep their heads above water, that they frequently do not have the time or assets available to them to declare their needs effectively. In our information age, this is becoming less of a problem, as we can communicate those needs on platforms like Facebook and Twitter. Check the Facebook pages of your local churches, grocery stores, and the like to see if they are a receiving location for items of need, or if they are actual volunteer spots. This reduces the amount of phone calls that inundate organizations like the Red Cross during a disaster. You may even volunteer yourself to one of these locations to coordinate and receive donations if they have not set something up yet.
  4. You may check the local Red Cross Website. In the currently affected area, that is the Louisiana Red Cross. They will have a list of ways to volunteer and usually a list of declared needs. Additionally, you may sign up to volunteer at Volunteer Louisiana.
  5. Assuming that your roads are clear, and only if they are clear from your home to the store, to the shelter, and back. Please do not become part of the problem by driving into standing or moving water and then becoming a victim yourself. This will require that emergency personnel will have to come to your assistance, and they are already spread very thin during a disaster. You may go to the local dollar store, grocery store, or WalMart and purchase needed supplies; toothpaste, toothbrushes, deodorant, sanitary items, bagged or boxed food, etc.

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6. Check on trending hashtags for up to the minute information. Some of the most helpful current tags are:

#flood, #louisiana, #batonrougeflood, #laflood, #batonrougepets, #lawx, #lousianaflood, #denhamsprings, #redcross, #batonrouge, #la, #ascensionparish, #AscensionOHSEP, #wafb

7. As of 8/15/16, the following information has been provided as places of need, or as places that you may donate or volunteer.

The Salvation Army: A makeshift Salvation Army command center has been set up at 4025 West Brookstown Dr. Volunteers are welcome to report to the Brookstown location to help with food service and more. To volunteer, or if you are in need of assistance, call (225) 355-4483.

Baton Rouge Area Foundation: BRAF has a relief fund that assists nonprofits responding to flooding across the state. People can make donations online at braf.org. Donations to the Louisiana Flood Relief Fund are tax deductible.

Rouses Markets: In partnership with Second Harvest Food Bank, Rouses Markets are accepting cash donations and donations of non-perishable food, cleaning supplies and toiletries. You can make donations at the cash register or online.

Orleans Parish Sheriff’s Office: The sheriff’s office is accepting clean clothing for flood victims beginning Monday morning. All clothing should be bagged or boxed and can be delivered to the Sheriff’s Office training building at 819 South Broad Street.

Lamar Dixon Center: We need medical folks at shelter at Lamar Dixon. Specifically RN or EMT. They need help handling meds, etc.

Fellowship Church at 14363 Highway 73 in Prairieville:

Fellowship Church at Prairievillle (14363 Hwy 73) will be a drop off site for the shelter at Lamar Dixon again today. Please bring donations of toiletries, ladies hygiene products, baby formula and supplies, non perishable foods. We will update list of needs throughout the day.

**Just Added: Albertson’s Grocery Stores:

Effective 5PM this evening, Monday 8/15/16, all Albertson’s stores in the local baton rouge area (except the Denham Springs flooded store) will have a way for you to add money to your checkout to donate funds to the disaster relief.

American Red Cross: 

Give money to the American Red Cross. On this page, simply use the drop-down menu to earmark your money for the Louisiana floods. Or text LAFLOODS to 90999 to automatically send the organization $10. You may also call them at 855-489-2528 to volunteer.

United Way of Southeast Louisiana:

Donate to or volunteer with the United Way of Southeast Louisiana, which will provide flood victims with counseling, food and other items, here.

Zeta Phi Beta:

Check out the Louisiana State University’s Zeta Phi Beta sorority’s GoFundMe, which is aiming to raise $10,000 and disburse it to students impacted by the flooding, here.

Receiving Centers in New Orleans:

For nearby residents, such as New Orleans, there are many receiving areas that have been set up to collect items of need. Please click here for a link to New Orleans area collection centers.

8. As of 8/15/16, the following information has been provided as a vital need: There is a critical need for families who can provide a foster home for pets during this disaster. Please contact Capital Area Animal Welfare at (225) 752-5801. 

The question is “How can I help flood victims in Louisiana?” Let’s back up for a few minutes though before we answer that question to try to minimize the chances that you ever become a victim, and how to mitigate damages in the event that you do. If you are displaced from your home, it is a lot easier on both you and emergency personnel if you have some of your basics covered. If you have to go to a shelter, it’s devastating enough. It’s a medical emergency if you have to go without your medicine. During a flood, emergency personnel and first responders are overwhelmed, so do what you can to minimize your needs during the disaster.

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WHEN FLOODING IS A POSSIBILITY IN OR AROUND YOUR LOCAL AREA:

The question is “How can I help flood victims in Louisiana?” Let’s back up for a few minutes though before we answer that question to try to minimize the chances that you ever become a victim, and how to mitigate damages in the event that you do. If you are displaced from your home, it is a lot easier on both you and emergency personnel if you have some of your basics covered. If you have to go to a shelter, it’s devastating enough. It’s a medical emergency if you have to go without your medicine. During a flood, emergency personnel and first responders are overwhelmed, so do what you can to minimize your needs during the disaster.

  1. Find out what local resources are available to you to fill sandbags for your home. Get a list of at least two, and preferably three, in case the others are inaccessible due to heavy use or flooding. If you think that your place may flood, go and fill sandbags and protect your home. If you wait until you are certain, you will likely be far too late. Those sandbags can hold back water that would otherwise freely flow into your home, so it’s just good practice to surround your home and stop yourself from becoming another flood victim. It goes without saying that some will be unable to protect their homes regardless of all of their best efforts, but you should still try until you know that you have exhausted your options.
  2. Have enough drinking water on hand. If you live in Louisiana then you are all to familiar with a ‘boil water advisory’, which you should be able to do, but if you lose your power that option will be lost with it. Make sure you have enough bottled water and food (non perishable) available to eat so that you, your family, your animals, and potentially additional family members or friends who may come to you after losing their homes are covered. Do not stock up on things which require electricity (meats, cheeses, etc.), as you have no promise that you will have power during the disaster. You do not want to go to the grocery store and find empty shelves, so you should always have a ready supply of non perishables in your home.

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  1. Assemble your valuables, your real valuables; passport, ID, medicine, two days worth of clothing, toiletries, phone charger, a small blanket, flashlight (or a flashlight app on your phone), multi purpose tool, knife, batteries, a radio, etc. Please take the number of your insurance agent and your policy number with you if at all possible. You will need this to begin the claims process. You will also want to bring a small amount of food with you; protein bars, pop tarts, dry nuts, and water. You may displaced for several hours during an evacuation. The lines will be long at the shelters, and you will be cold, wet, tired, and emotionally shaken. You do not need to add hungry or thirsty to the list. Take enough to get you through the first 24 hours if possible. Click here to read the Red Cross Evacuation Bag List list.
  2. Put all of your valuables in gallon sized ziploc bags and squeeze out all of the air. Roll clothes up tightly before placing in bags to conserve space. If you have to evacuate by boat and your bag slips off into the water, your items will remain dry if you have them bagged up in the ziplocs. Plus, these zip loc bags serve as a wonderful way to carry and store items that you will be provided once you are at the shelter.

Evacuation Bag During Flooding

5. Put your items in a backpack, not a bag that you carry by hand. When you are evacuating, you may need both arms to be pulled off of a roof, car, etc, and you should not have that terrible situation complicated by also having to struggle with a bag. Put it on your back so that you may move around hands free. This also frees your hands up at the shelter where things are crowded and space is tight. Inside of a shelter, you will be fumbling with paperwork, possibly your children, and you do not need your personal belongings complicating the matter. Additionally, it keeps items up off of the floor which reduces the possibility that someone could trip on your bag or accidentally take your bag and move it out of the way.  In other words, do not skip this step.

Evacuation Backpack During Flood Louisiana6. Always have cash in your evacuation bag. Do not carry all large bills. During disasters, ATM’s go down, and business may or may not have money couriers coming in. In other words, they may not have change to give to you, and you may not be able to get money from the bank. Trust me when I tell you that I have seen someone pay $20 for a gallon of water, because it was all that he, or anyone around him had. If you need water, and the clerk doesn’t have change, you have to hand over what you have. Do yourself a favor and have at least $50-$100 in $1 or $5 bills. You may already be taking a bath due to the flooding, and you don’t need to take a financial bath too. Save yourself the trouble and make this a part of your evacuation bag.

7. Make sure that you have enough food in a ziplock bag ready to go for your animals, as you can not guarantee that your receiving shelter will have this need covered. Also, please remember to pack any medications that your animal requires.

8. Similar to number 7 above, please make sure that you take ample baby formula and diapers to sustain your babies for at least 24 hours, as this is a need which is always a challenge during a disaster. Again, remember any medications that your baby may need.

9. Make sure that you have registered your pet’s chip if they have one. Should you be separated from you pet during the flood, this is a way to guarantee that you will be reunited. If you do not remember who makes your chip, simply call the Capital Area Animal Welfare Center at (225) 752-5801. When you read them your chip number, they will be able to tell you who it is registered to.  Please register these chips. If your pets do not have chips, please make sure that they have a collar on with your current information on it. If you have pets, print out the Pet Emergency Preparedness Plan, written by Sirena Madden of  Happy Trails and Wag’n Tails. She has been in the ‘dog care’ business for over a decade and has seen it all. She gives you a lot of valuable pointers that could easily be overlooked.

10. Fill up your car or truck. This is because the gas pumps in your area may be submerged under water. Additionally, gas trucks may be unable to get into your local area to refill the pumps. You will need to be able to drive for various reasons before, and especially after, the flood, so make sure that you have already taken care of this for yourself and your family members.

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**All Flood Photos Couresy of Local Realtor Kristina Smallhorn (aka. YourRealEstateWhisperer)

11. Make a contact and evacuation plan. The Red Cross and your local news station (for example, here in Baton Rouge it is WAFB Baton Rouge News) will post constant updates about where you should evacuate to in the event of a disaster. Additionally, they will post local numbers of resources that you may find yourself in need of. Call 911 in the event of an emergency. If you can not get through to 911 for evacuation, please contact GOHSEP (Governer’s Office of Homeland Security and Emergency Management) at (225) 925-7500.  Have your local power company’s phone number handy. Where I live, that company is Entergy Power Company. You may contact them at 800-542-2668. If you do not have the chance to shut off your power, call the electric company to do it. Many people forget how frequently people are electrocuted both during and after floods as a result of active power at a disaster site. **Important note, NEVER go into a basement where there is standing water to shut off the breaker box. If you have to stand in water to reach it, just call the power company to shut it off.

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Lastly, make sure that you have one contact outside of the area that you appoint as your family’s ‘point of contact’. You do not want to rely on others that are in the affected area, as they may be suffering catastrophic losses themselves and be unable to provide assistance. You simply text or call your loved ones and make sure that they know who your point of contact is. Then, as things develop, you may simply tell one person, and anyone who wants to check on you may call them. You will have your hands full dealing with your situation, the phone lines will be inundated or shut down, and you may not have access to a place to charge your cell phone. For all of these reasons, text (preferred to reduce phone line overload) the one person and let them do the talking for you. You may of course always post to Facebook, but that can take up a lot of your time trying to answer questions from everyone. It’s best to just focus on where you are in that moment, and let someone with a clear head manage that for you. Please also instruct that person to relay to family/friends that they may check the Red Cross Safe and Well Locator System for updates. Whenever you enter a shelter, one of your first stops will be at a table where you will be asked to fill in this form so that you may be checked in safe.

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Receiving Area for Displaced Flood Victims

If you take care of those 11 tasks, then you will have helped yourself and your family. In so doing, you have already exponentially reduced the amount of resources that you will require during a disaster, and that is a massive contribution to relief efforts.

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AFTER THE DISASTER: 

People are trying to get back to ‘normal’ and you want to help. Here are some ways that you can contribute that may seem less obvious.

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  1. Offer to watch children at the local church, as many people will struggle with childcare issues during clean up.
  2. Buying school supplies will be much appreciated. Though this is not an immediate need during a disaster, it will quickly become one when schools reopen and victims of the flood do not have school supplies for their children.
  3. Register for a course from the Red Cross about Emergency Preparedness . This way the next time that there is a disaster, you will have a wider skill set to offer to your local community members in need.

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4. Talk to your employer about using unused sick days or leave. Many large workplaces, like the federal government, allow people to give unused leave to others. Contact your HR representative and ask if you can donate some of your unused leave to people affected by the flood.

Yes, there are a million other ways that you can provide assistance, but this post was meant to encourage you to be creative, get out there, and get connected. We all want to help others in need. It’s a basic human desire. It’s what makes this country great. It what makes me proud to call Louisiana home today.

I hope this article helped you in some way. Please share with your friends and family on social media, and post any additional needs or comments below to help others.

In closing, I want to take a moment to thank all of the emergency responders, volunteers, news crews and more who have given so generously and placed themselves in harm’s way to save others. Thank you for spending this time with me. Stay safe. Have an open heart. Give back.

With gratitude,

Raphaela Laurean

 

 

This is Divorce: The Sudden Shift in Your Reality

This is Divorce

This is Divorce.

Hello Everyone, 

For many weeks I have been completely silent online. There was one reason for that only; my husband and I separated for the final time. Just before we separated he began an argument with me about what I had been writing on my blog. He said that I was using my blog ‘to trash him’, which was in no way true. I was simply explaining some of the ins and outs of my personal life, and how you can not allow those factors to cause you to lose sight of your goal. 

That said, for the duration of our marriage, he never watched any of my YouTube videos, nor read any of my blog or social media posts. Suddenly, upon realizing that we were on the brink, he took interest in what I was writing and saying. I am not writing any of this to be mean or spiteful, but only to explain why I didn’t write anything for so many weeks. 

Let’s just say that for the purposes of this blog at this moment that the safety of both me and my children was in question. That reason, coupled with my new knowledge of the fact that he was reading all of my social posts, did not lend itself to an environment where I felt free to share. Has that changed? Only slightly. I am sure that at some point he will make time to pry into my life by reading these posts, but after weeks of losing the right to write on my blog, I simply do not care anymore. 

I decided for myself that he was not going to take one more thing from me, not my training goals, not my spirit, and not my ability to communicate with the world on my blog or any other social media channels.

There will be a time in the future where I may share the details of the final moments of our marriage, but this is not the time. We are getting ready to go through an ugly divorce, a nasty custody battle, and I will not provide his team of paid henchman with any ammunition to use against me and my babies. The only thing that I will say is this. I did what any mother would do in my situation; I protected my children, even at the expense of my marriage. Enough said for now. 

This pretty much sums it up.

This pretty much sums it up.

So what does divorce look or feel like? It feels like having your guts ripped out, while watching your standard of living plummet towards the earth, and having to figure out how to rebuild your life from basically nothing, and you have to do it all with a smile on your face to protect your children from the truth of their life. 

It doesn’t hit you all at once. For me, it happened in little ways. First, it happened the day after he left. I was making our usual amount of coffee, and realized that I no longer had to do that. The next day, it was looking at the door and seeing three jackets hanging, where once there had been four. It is tiny little knives that meet you around every corner.

Little knives in your heart.

Little knives in your heart.

You think you are just going to do the laundry, when you realize that one of his socks was mixed in with the clothing. You are overcome with a myriad of emotions; anger, resentment, profound grief, disbelief, disappointment, fear, and so much more. You look at your children playing joyfully in the bath tub, and you try to establish new routines, implement new rules. You have to tell your children that ‘Daddy loves you very much, but Mommy and Daddy are not going to live together anymore’. You have to fight back the urge to say the things that you are really thinking, because this is not their fight. Thankfully in our situation, they were not asking where Daddy was or why he was gone, so that has been a small blessing in all of this.This is their only childhood, and it is your job to protect them from this terrible new reality. 

When my parents were going through a divorce, I felt like a tattered and worn ball that was thrown violently between two parties that didn’t want to play ball. They were both highly educated, incredibly intelligent people who made the profoundly stupid mistake of not understanding that we were not responsible for their divorce. They would take their resentment towards each other and pour it on us like some disgusting syrupy goo that you could not wash off. I remember thinking that I wished that they could understand that I could, and would not divorce either of them. I was not going to choose one over the other, even though there was plenty of reason for me to do that. I was only issued one mother and one father at birth, and I didn’t get to dismiss them from my life because my parents were unable to make their marriage work. Case closed. 

Why do I tell you that? Simple, because I learned from their mistakes. I know what that feels like. I know the insecurities that created in me and my siblings. I simply will not do that to my children. It is my job to model love, compassion, and strength for them, even if I have to do it as a single mom who doesn’t think so highly of their dad. Is he a terrible person? I will let my children form their own opinions about him. As for what I think, I wouldn’t divorce a kind and loving husband, so I guess you can deduce what I think. I am not saying that he will not make a good husband/boyfriend to someone else down the road, but I am saying that the shelf life of our relationship expired, a long time ago. I was too patient, too forgiving, and simply just too stupid to end it. Thankfully, his actions took care of that for me, and now all I have to do is deal with the collateral damage. 

Do I hate him? No, I still love him. I will always want the best for him. I just no longer want to be a welcome mat for he and his family to abuse. Honestly, I could fill this blog and several others with the terrible things that happened during the course of our marriage from he and his family, but I probably won’t. The reason is because when I decide that I am truly done with something in my life, I release it. I don’t hold onto it, mull it over, regurgitate it and reanalyze it. I try to learn from it. I make my peace with it, and I just go on a more mature, more seasoned version of me. More to the point, my children and I deserve a peaceful life, filled with two parents who love them, and are whole. The only way that he and I will be happy is apart. It took me years and years, almost 10 to realize this, but it is an undeniable fact.

I also have the ability to understand the long game here. Someday, emotions will calm, he may remarry, I may remarry, we will have to learn to find peace in the one fact that we have to co-parent our children together. At the end of the day, years from now, that is all it will be. It will simply be another relationship in my life that I need to manage. It will have a different dynamic. It will have different expectations, but I hope that it will always have love and respect. I know that may take many many years to achieve, but I will conduct myself according to that one goal. I do not want to do or say anything that my children would ever look upon with disgust. I want them to see their mom as someone who took a really bad, and completely unfair situation, and built a life for them that was so much sweeter than the life that they had. I want our story, my story to be one of victory, not simply survival. I want to thrive in my divorce, not just survive my divorce. 

So what do you do? How do you go on? You make the slow realization daily that you were once a person who didn’t have another half. You used to be able to choose your own movies, your own evening activities, meals, vacation places and more. You were a person with hobbies, friends, goals and dreams of your own before you merged them with someone else’s. You realize that for the first time in your 40 years on this planet, you are actually going to be allowed to exist, in your own right, and live your life your way. There are these small victories that happen when you realize that grocery shopping is easier, there is less laundry, and you can really focus on yourself and your children. 

These children are going to need a lot of love and counseling. I can help them with the love, but we are all going to counseling together (Ava, Cash, and I-not the ex). They need to realize that they are not at fault and that they do not come from a broken home. They lived in a broken home, a very broken one, but now they are going to live in a whole home, one where the foundation is solid and stable and sure. I despise the term broken home, because it is positively laughable to assume that simply because two people manage to tolerate each other and live under the same roof, that they are somehow not broken. This is a lie. It’s a lie that society feeds us, to keep us in place, to keep us half alive. 

Sure there is a stigma with walking around with two children, and no wedding ring. People look at you. They make assumptions about you that may or may not be true, but they don’t really know anything about the situation. Just today, the kids and I had to get out of the house, so we walked into town to get ice cream. We live in a very upscale part of New Orleans. When we walked into this store, ordered and sat down, I felt the stares. I noticed one blonde woman and her husband in particular who kept looking at my left hand for a ring, which was not present. 

She was your typical trophy wife; tall, blonde, well dressed, huge ring, etc. She was me until 2.5 weeks ago. She is just walking around in her safe, secure, over privileged life not wanting for anything. What she doesn’t know is that the river that separates her life from mine is not so wide. She could be me in an instant if the tides turned. As I sat there thinking about that, it occurred to me that even though her stares were making me uncomfortable, that I didn’t want to live her life anymore. 

She was at this ice cream parlor, and it obviously meant nothing to them. They ate half of their ice cream and threw it away. For us, it was a huge treat. My children at every last bite of their ice cream, because they know that it will not happen again for quite some time. It occurred to me in that moment that I felt somewhat dead in my former life. We had everything and absolutely nothing at the same time. This new life will come with far less in the physical sense, but we are blooming as a new family unit. 

In case you are wondering if I have completely let go of my bikini bodybuilding training as we have navigated this new life, NOPE! I haven’t missed a single workout. I have lost more than 10 pounds since I began training. It has actually been wonderful to have a goal and a plan to focus on while the rest of my life is very uneasy at this time. Bragging? Not even close. I am simply telling you that when you make a decision for yourself that you are going to do something, you will move heaven, hell, and anything else that comes down your path to make it happen. 

It is going to be a long, bumpy, and windy road until this is over and I can look back and laugh. That said, I am going to strap myself and my babies in and enjoy this ride. I feel alive for the first time in so many years. I feel free to breathe, to exist, and to be. 

Living my Life, 

Raphaela

Do It Yourself ‘Kind’ Protein Bars? Yes please!

Homemade protein bars.

Yeah, yeah, I make words out of my food. It also happens to be super delicious. Homemade Kind-Like Protein Bars. #yummy

Hey Everyone,

When we went grocery shopping at our local Costco last month, we purchased a rather large box of Kind bars, because they are so tasty. I thought that the whole box was dark chocolate and sea salt, wrongo. I grabbed one the other morning on my way to a meeting. It was one of those dreary, rainy, cold New Orleans mornings where your breakfast is the only comfort that you have for this terrible weather. When I stopped at the red light, I unwrapped it. I took a sip of my warm coffee and thought, “Best combination ever-the dark chocolate, almonds, and coffee.” Then I lifted the kind bar to my mouth, took a bite, and ………..

It was like a slap in the face. I was betrayed by my own breakfast. What was this thing in my mouth? Where is the chocolate? Where are the chunks of sea salt bouncing off of the sweet honey and raw almonds? Yuck. I quickly turned that little wrapper over and there it was staring back at me, as if to say, “Read the box next time sunshine.” The label read Madagascar Vanilla Almond. I don’t care how fancy you make it sound, this protein bar was like having happy hour with your Tax Accountant….boring and unpleasant.

Needless to say, my tummy was growling during this meeting, because their was no way on God’s green earth that this thing was making a second run at my mouth. No way. Hello circular file. I will be donating the rest of these to my church, because they love to put out snacks on Sunday. Hopefully someone there does not have my discerning protein bar palette :-).

Anywho, onto the homemade protein bar journey. I did what any red blooded American with Pinterest would do, I created my own and took pictures. I originally made them for my husband and I, but while I was cutting one for him to take and try as breakfast, the kids asked to try. They freaked out! They each wanted their own. I knew that I had to share this immediately, because if you can get children to voluntarily eat, this is Breaking News! Here is the text from my hubby after he ate it while driving to work.

"Best protein bar I've ever had! Thx."

“Best protein bar I’ve ever had! Thx.”

Yup, my protein bars bring all the boys to the yard, because mine are better than yours. 🙂 Sorry, I got a little out of control there for a second. I am sure your protein bars are delicious too.

So here is the recipe;

Step 1: Grab a 5 x 9 cooking dish and spray with cooking spray.

Step 2: Mix all of these dry ingredients together.

-1/2 cup Oat Flour (I just took oatmeal and put it in the blender for a few seconds-voila oat powder)

-1/2 cup Quick Oats (not the regular kind, but the kind in the little packets or anything that cooks up super fast)

-1/2 cup Rice Krispies (I just used a box of chocolate rice krispies that the kids voted off the island last month. Haha, I win. I got them to eat it anyway. I am so sneaky 🙂 )

-1/2 cup Vanilla Protein Powder ( I personally have an obsession with BSN Vanilla Ice Cream protein powder, but anything works. If you want to use the same protein that I did, you can grab it here: http://amzn.to/1IiobhB)

**Optional, but I added:

-1/4 cup Pistachios (shells removed, unless you are trying to break your teeth)

-1/4 cup crushed Raw Almonds (take almonds, add to ziplock bag, think of someone who frustrates you, attack bag violently with hammer, rolling pin, your fists, whatever. Don’t judge me.)

Stir all of this together and set aside.

Dry DIY protein bar ingredients

Dry DIY protein bar ingredients

 

Step 3: In a small pot, gently melt;

-1/3 cup Raw Honey

-1/3 Peanut Butter or Almond Butter

-1 teaspoon Vanilla Extract

Step 4: Gently fold the honey, peanut butter, vanilla mixture into the dry ingredients.

Step 5: Press into the bottom of the pan. I mean really press it down, because this is how you guarantee that you are going to get that thick, dense, protein bar consistency.

*Step 6: Optional, but I did it. Melt dark chocolate squares in the microwave, roughly 1/3 cup, for 30 seconds at a time until it is smooth and creamy. Drizzle over bars, smooth with spoon, sprinkle with sea salt.

Step 7: Cover dish with wrap and refrigerate overnight.

DIY Protein Bars

DIY Protein Bar Cake Getting Ready to Chill

Step 8: Using a pizza cutter, cut flattened protein cake into 8 bars.

World's Most Awesome Protein Bars.

World’s Most Awesome Protein Bars.

Step 9: Bag individually and stick in the fridge. If you want the little bags that I used, get them here: http://amzn.to/1yw0Mcu. Dirt cheap 1000 bags for $16 with Amazon Prime.

Step 10: Grab on your way out the door in the morning, and know that you are freakin’ awesome! Seriously, you are awesome because you totally made your own breakfast bar, and there will be NO more surprises at the next traffic light when it hits your mouth.

I honestly can not express to you how delicious these are. You can mix up the ingredients and add anything that you want; cranberries, flax seed, anything you want. It’s your breakfast, so go crazy!

Thanks for spending a few minutes with me. I would love to see your creations or hear what you think of this recipe when you try it. Enjoy!

XO

Raphaela

Homemade protein bars.

Wrap into little bags. Enjoy!

 

 

DIY Travel Mirror That Everyone Will Try To Steal From You! Adorable and Affordable.

Hey guys,

I wanted to take a moment to share my little DIY mirror idea with you. I love this mirror so much, and I use it all the time. Many of my friends have duplicated this idea, and they just love them. They are also fantastic gift ideas, because they are relatively inexpensive to make (roughly $25) and they are so unique. I just could not stand to be crammed into a bathroom while traveling to have access to a mirror during the holidays. For that reason, I decided to redesign the whole compact mirror idea, and it is just too cute not to share.

Total Cost for This DIY Mirror: $25 (Details Listed Just Below This)

Items Used in This Video:
You may use any mirror or case that you like, but I have had friends try to recreate this without knowing the measurements, and they ended up ordering items that don’t fit together, so here are the proper measurements below to make it easier for you.

Handheld mirror (9 inches wide by 7 1/4 inches tall-without the handle-just the mirror face and border)
*I looked on Amazon to see if I could find one here with the correct dimensions, and I don’t see one, so I would recommend just picking one up at WalMart or your local drugstore, because that is where I picked this one up a long time ago. Just make sure that you measure. It was roughly $7-10.

Ipad Case: (9.75 Wide by 7 1/2 Tall)
Available on Amazon for only $15.99 and it qualifies for free shipping. Also, they have a ton of colors to choose from, so go and pick the one that you love. I have given these away as gifts and people just LOVE them.: http://amzn.to/1BU2WlF

#diy #mirror #compact

Gratefully,

Raphaela Laurean

I Am A DoTerraholic! I Am Obsessed With DoTerra.

Hello Everyone,

I just had to shoot a video to describe my level of obsession with these doTerra products. I am not even kidding, it’s bordering on being a problem. I tried them as part of the Terrafit 90 Day Challenge that I am doing, and I accidentally fell in love with these products. My two current obsessions are Breathe Essential Oil, which I use before I work out, and basically whenever I want a little pick me up during the day, and Deep Blue Rub, which has been a God send for my sciatica.

If you have any kind of asthma issues or back pain that you are dealing with on a daily basis, then you have to watch this video. This stuff is off the charts amazing!

 

Gratefully,

Raphaela Laurean

How To Set Up Your Business For Less Than $10…Seriously!

Hello Everyone,

I finally began shooting this series on Monday. This is honestly the most rewarding thing that I have done in a really long time. Thanks to my business now being run functionally by Amazon, I am free to share all that I have learned over the last 20 years with anyone who is interested. I have had to bootstrap everything in both my personal and professional life, so trust me, I get being on a budget.

I completely understand what it feels like to have a dream, and no way, or no help towards reaching it. This is my way of giving back. I am not selling anything, just providing information for people that need it. If you know someone who you think could benefit from this series, please recommend it to them.

This series will walk you through the step by step (literally) instructions for how to set up your business. The first 3-part video discussed how to come up with and choose your business name, make sure that no one else is using it, and see what others think about your name. The second 3-part video discusses how to set up your blog, domain name, and matching email address yourself. I have already filmed a few videos about how to sell on Amazon, and I will expand on this going forward at the end of this series. Tomorrow, I will be talking about how to secure all of your social media names, link everything up, design your own logo, print your marketing materials, and help your customers find you.

You do NOT need to hire anyone to do any of this for you. If you have been wanting to set up your business, or want to ‘polish’ your brand, then these videos are going to provide you with some very valuable content. Please click subscribe when you are there so that you will be notified when I upload new videos in this series, as I do not regularly post them to my blog.

I am so excited to be filming these, and I hope you find them a valuable nudge towards your dreams.

Gratefully,

Raphaela

 

Mirror Mirror On The Wall..DIY Luxury Gold and White Mirror Redesign

DIY, To, Do, Tips, Mirror, Design

This is a fun and super quick project to change the way your mirror looks. Create Your Own DIY Luxury Mirror for Only $3.00.

We are finally just about settled in here in New Orleans. This city is absolutely amazing. You will never want for something to do if you live or visit here. That said, I have spent most of the last 8 weeks inside the walls of our home, not out of them. Am I a recluse? Um, survey says, No!

Then why would I do this? I am the kind of person that must settle my home after a move. I have this cathartic need to open every box, ask myself if I still need it and what I need it for. If I no longer need it in its current form, I try to repurpose it, or to redesign it. If that doesn’t work, I call the Salvation Army and make a sizeable donation.  They will pick up your stuff, so that you do not have to pack it all up and haul it over there. Check, that’s one less thing on my to do list :-).

I have been ‘designing’ things forever. As a result of being a military family, we move quite a bit, so I have a lot of practice. I know that I love to read about how other people repurpose or redesign things, but I definitely have my own wild and crazy design ideas. It just never really occurred to me that others would be interested in that. However, after seeing some of my projects, my mother in law suggested that I should be showing other people how to do this. So, I thought about that, then I bought a domain name, and now I am writing the first post for that new section of my blog ‘Girl Meets Tool’.

The mirror in this project survived my final round cuts of ‘Flip It or Skip It’ (this is the name that I have given this ‘sorting’ process every time we move). I have become absolutely obsessed with painting everything. There were so many items in our home that have been given a new personality with a simple touch of color. Seriously, the people at our local hardware store know me by name, so I think ‘obsessed’ is a fair word to describe how much time I have spent in their store building my paint and tool collection.

I have so many exciting DIY projects to share with you over the coming months. I have taken hundreds of pictures and videos to use on this blog, so let’s get started with this super easy mirror redesign.

This mirror sat in our entryway for years, and for some reason it escaped my clutches until now. I was sorting through all of our mirrors after everything was opened, and this one was the right width and height for my new vanity, but the color—yuck! Spray Paint to the rescue.

I took this dull metallic mirror from drab to fab for about $3.00.

 

Painters, Tape, Mirror, DIY, Butcher, Paper, Redesign

This is the mirror before anything was done to it. I taped off the edges with painter’s tape and butcher paper over the mirror.

Total Cost: $9.50 **Materials used for this project were only about $3.00, because I still have a lot of all 3 left over.

$4.50 Each Can of Paint (I could do another 2 or 3 mirrors with the paint that I have left)

$ .50 Painter’s Tape (I still have 75% of the roll)

Tools Needed:

-Spray Paint: Flat White and Metallic Gold (I use Krylon with primer)

-Painter’s Tape (Any width will do for this project)

-Piece of Paper (old magazines, a trash bag, anything to cover up the mirror)

-Pair of Scissors or Exacto Knife (to cut sharp corners in the tape)

Step 1: Cover the mirror with anything that will block out excess spray paint. Some suggestions would be; a piece of paper, a bill that you don’t feel like paying :-), or that nasty old shirt that your boyfriend/husband just will not throw away.

Step 2: Spray the entire mirror flat white. 

Flat, White, Luxury, DIY, Mirror

After taping over the mirror, spray the entire mirror border and sides flat white.

-Put some old books, bricks, or whatever you have on hand down under the mirror to lift it off of the ground while you are spraying. Otherwise, you will almost always get these little marks where the mirror was in contact with the surface that you were spraying it on.

-Walk around the mirror when it is on the floor and spray from each side to make sure that you cover all of the angles and sides evenly. For example, stand one side of the mirror and spray the side across from you, and the edge nearest you. Then simply keep moving around the mirror until you have completed all four sides. Yeah right, like I am the only one who dances with the things that they are painting :-).

-Three light coats are better than one heavy coat. Allow 2-3 minutes between coats. If you try to cheat on this step, you will end up with paint drips, so just don’t do it. Trust me, I have old projects that still stare at me every time that I walk by them and beg to be repainted, because I tried to do it the easy way.

Step 2: Allow mirror to dry overnight.

-Your project requires two things inspiration and patience. Don’t put the tape down just yet, or you may rip it off when you go to pick it up. I find it helpful to work on three or four projects at once, so that I am always rotating back and forth between them. This way I am not only distracted, but patience isn’t really an issue, because one of the four is always ready for the next step.

This is my patient face :-)

This is my patient face 🙂

 

Step 3: Add painter’s tape to the inside corners only. This mirror has a recessed lip so that was easy, but if yours does not, just create your own by moving the tape in about 1/4 inch from the border all the way around.

Mirror, DIY, Design, Idea, Inspiration

Apply the tape just inside of the mirror’s border.

Step 4: Very Important Step: Respray the mirror in white.

-No, I am not drinking on the job. This looks requires very precise lines. I read once (sorry, can not remember where) that to make sure that you have very sharp lines, always spray a coat of the base color (in this case white), before spraying the accent color (in this case gold). When you pull the tape, you will see why. The lines are perfect every time, but DO NOT SKIP this step. You do not have to wait more than 2 minutes before beginning to spray the gold.

Step 5: Spray the border (the area without painter’s tape) in gold.

Spray, Paint, DIY, Mirror, Lux, Luxury

Spray the border, not the edges to complete this look.

-For my mirror, I wanted the gold to just be a small line, so I did not spray the side edges of the mirror. I also did not want to tape off each edge, so I just sprayed the gold on from across each side to make sure that I only hit the trim area with the gold spray paint. In other words, if you are standing at the foot of the mirror, you would spray the top trim piece only from that angle, and then work your way around the mirror. This will give you a nice gold trim piece, while leaving the edges a beautiful white.

DIY, Gold, Luxury, Spray, Painted, Mirror, Idea, Project.

See how the gold is only on the trim area, but the sides are still white.

Step 6: Another heaping helping of patience. Relax, it’s manageable this time. You will be able to paint your beautiful face in this one before your hot date tonight.

-Wait about 20 minutes (or 10 if you are just too impatient) and then pull the tape off slowly. I find pulling tape straight up and back leaves me with the cleanest lines.

Painters, Tape, pull, direction, guide

Pull the tape straight up and back to get crisp clean lines every time.

Step 7: Hang on your wall, stare at your unbelievable beauty, and figure out where to invest all of the money that you just saved yourself. 🙂

After, DIY, Mirror, Redesign,

Finished DIY Mirror.

I hope you love this DIY mirror tutorial, and that it sparks an idea in your mind to do something fun with a mirror that you already own. I would love to see your take on this idea if you want to share. Stay tuned for many more of these types of DIY projects.

Thanks for spending a few minutes with me.

Gratefully,

Raphaela Laurean

Preparation and Planning are Not Optional!

Plan, Prepare, Organize, Execute

Plan your work and work your plan!

I accept already that some people will look at this picture and think-crazy! For some, this level of planning, preparation, organization, and daily execution may seem over the top. At my house, it’s just plain normal. As a business person, I am a huge fan of this concept ‘If it has to be done more than once or twice, automate it’.

Of course, you can not really ‘automate’ your home, but you can establish a nightly routine that takes the chaos and frazzle out of your days-ok. let’s be serious, maybe just reduces it. When you are raising kids, working out, married, running a business, and spending two hours a day in the gym training, you MUST be prepared, or you simply will not be able to maintain that kind of momentum.

If I had to get up every morning and pick out the kids outfits, my gym outfit, my outfit for the day, plan my meal, etc, I would probably have a lot more difficulty getting out of bed in the morning. I just personally find it a lot easier to do these things in the evening, the night before, when the pressure is off, and I am alert……aka….not picking eye buggers out of the corners of my eyes, and trying to figure out the fastest way to the coffee pot.

Here is what we do to stay on track; 

-While the kids are eating dinner, I make a game out of it. I present them with three shirts and ask which they would like to wear tomorrow. They always have fun with this, because they ask me, “Mommy, is that the shirt that you thought I would choose?” When they go to bed, I put the shirt together with the pants, panties/diapers, socks and shoes, and lay it all out for the morning.

-While the kids are watching their one nightly video, I unpack/repack my gym bag for the next day. I lay out my gym outfit for the next day, and I hang up the clothing that I am going to wear the next day, along with packing the jewelry, shoes, panties, bras, etc. that complete my outfit.

-I pack back up all of my computer bags and camera cases, purse, and anything else that will need to go with me to the office the next day and I stage it all with the other items.

-I grab a cup, any vitamins, my water, and I place that all right there, so I never forget it in the morning scramble.

-Last but not least, I set my gloves, hat, and car keys with all of the rest of my morning stuff.

OCD? Doubt it. Success has a lot to do with consistency. Consistency has a lot to do with planning. Once you recognize that, it would honestly make very little sense to try to do it the other way-get everything together in the morning.

I do not have a lot of time with my babies, so being able to have a nice leisurely morning with them, and minimize the mad dash that mornings bring, adds to the happiness and harmony of my home. That’s our Lifestlye Lane minute. Hope it helps you and your family smile more and stress less.

Gratefully,

Raphaela